一位罗彻斯特CEO父亲：上大学前，我希望有人告诉我的100件事！

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上大学前那个暑假，谁不是对大学又憧憬又好奇，又有着一丝丝担忧呢？

罗彻斯特大学的校友、Jefferies金融集团的CEO——RICH HANDLER先生在他的四个孩子上大学的第一天，给了他们每人一张便笺，内容是《我希望有人在我上大学之前告诉我的100件事》（100 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Went To College）。

在这里，我们分享给大家，希望能给更多的准大学生们，尤其是北美留学生们一些启发~看到最后，会有很多触动。

以下是RICH HANDLER先生的忠告便笺的原文内容：

Dear Max, Shane, Hunter, and Skylar,

亲爱的麦克斯，谢恩，亨特和斯凯拉,（他的四个孩子的名字）

100 things in no particular order that I wish someone told me before I went to college. I’m sure you already know each of them and more. But just in case you ever need a reminder, I’ve written them down for you:

这是我希望有人在我上大学之前告诉我的100件事情，没有特定的顺序。我知道这些道理很可能你们都已经知道了，不过，以防你们需要提醒，我给你写下来了:

1. Get to know the President of the University, the Trustees, the senior staff, and your advisor(s). Those relationships can enhance your experience and who knows, maybe they will become friends, mentors, or sources of letters of recommendation. They run the place and they want to help students. They are just people–and they were in your spot once.

1.要去认识大学校长、校董、学校高级职员和你的导师。这些关系可以提高你的经验，谁知道呢，也许他们会成为朋友，导师，或推荐信的来源。他们经营这个地方，他们想帮助学生。他们只是普通人，他们曾经也处在过你的位置。

2. Get to know your professors personally. Now is the time to be assertive, open, and friendly….and establish real relationships.

2.你需要去了解你的教授。现在是果断、开放和友好的时候了……并且建立真正的关系。

3. Sit in the front of the room. It may not be cool, but it is time for that mentality.

3.坐在教室的前面。这可能不是很酷，但现在是时候有这种心态了。

4. Get off to a great start academically. The way the math works, it is really hard to come back from bad grades early on…sometimes impossible.

4.在学业上有一个良好的开端。比如数学的学习方式，很难从早期的糟糕成绩中恢复过来……有时候是不可能的。

5. Join clubs and get involved. do it right from the start. This is a clean slate and an opportunity to really step it up. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t done this to your full ability thus far. It is the perfect time to begin.

5.加入俱乐部，参与其中。从头开始。这是一个全新的开始，也是一个真正提升自己的机会。如果你到目前为止还没有尽全力做到这一点，那也没有关系。这是开始的最佳时机。

6. It’s never too early to start working on summer jobs. Now is the time to build your resume and get experience. Real summer jobs, while you are in college, create a huge advantage in getting a job you want upon graduation.

6.开始暑期实习（工作）永远不嫌早。现在是时候建立你的简历和获得经验了。当你在大学的时候，真正的暑期工作为你在毕业后找到一份你想要的工作创造了巨大的优势。

7. When you wear your headphones and listen to music all the time, you are purposely shutting out people who you would otherwise be meeting. Understand that you are making a conscious decision not to meet people and it will be your loss. There is always time in your dorm to listen to music when you are truly alone.

7.当你一直戴着耳机听音乐的时候，你就是在故意把那些你本来要见的人拒之门外。要知道，你是在有意识地决定不与人见面，这将是你的损失。当你真正独处的时候，在宿舍里总是有时间听音乐的。

8. Work out consistently. This is a no brainer. No excuse, not to.

8. 坚持锻炼。这是显而易见的。没有借口不锻炼。

9. Never use cocaine, pills, or narcotics whatsoever. Not even once. If you fall down that slope, there may be little chance of return. Sometimes it only takes once.

9.永远不要使用可卡因，药片或麻醉剂什么的。一次都不要。如果你从那个斜坡上摔下来，可能几乎没有回头的机会。有时只需要一次。

10. You are about to be 18 and will be tried out of state as an adult for any illegal behavior. There is nothing anyone can do to help you. This is all on you now.

10.你快满18岁了，将因任何违法行为在州外作为成年人接受审判。没人能帮你。现在全靠你了。

11. It is a great time to start taking classes that you are excited about. It doesn’t matter so much what you take, as long as you do your very best. Be adventurous.

11.这是一个最棒的学习时期。你感到兴奋。你拿什么并不重要，只要你尽力而为。大胆一点。

12. It is very cool to be smart and do well. Find friends that agree with this. It is perfectly great to work hard and play hard, as long as you are smart and in control.

12.聪明能干是很酷的。找到同意这一点的朋友。努力工作和努力玩耍都是完美的，只要你聪明并且能够有自控力。

13. Treat all women with respect. How would you want someone to treat your sister? Act that way.

13. 尊重所有女性。你希望别人怎么对待你的妹妹? 就那样做吧。

14. Do not get anyone pregnant or take a stupid chance and wind up with a lifelong disease.

14. 不要让任何人怀孕，或者冒一个愚蠢的风险，最终导致终身疾病。

15. You really need an overall 3.5 and above grade point average to maximize your opportunities once you graduate. It should be higher in whatever you major in. That is an A- average and it is hard to achieve. If you don’t go for it you will never know what could have been.

15.你真的需要一个整体的3.5以上的平均成绩点，以最大限度地提高你毕业后的机会。不管你主修什么专业，它都应该更高。这是一个 A-的平均水平，很难实现。如果你不去争取，你永远不会知道会发生什么。

16. It is not too early to get to know people at the Business School or other Graduate Schools. Go see them. Talk with the Deans. Get to know the people. Tell them you may be attending one day (you never know) and enlist their advice on how to get yourself to where they are.

16.现在结识商学院或其他研究生院的人，不算太早。去看看他们，和院长们谈谈。了解大家。告诉他们你可能有一天会参加(你永远不会知道是什么时候)，并征求他们的建议，告诉他们如何让自己达到他们的目标。

17. This is your chance to start fresh. It could mean anything you may want to change and improve. You rarely get this clean slate in life so take maximum advantage. Don’t fall back into bad habits. Start the change now.

17.这是你重新开始的机会。它可能意味着任何你想要改变和提高的东西。你很少能在生活中重新开始，所以要充分利用这一点。不要重蹈覆辙。现在开始改变。

18. Get into a regular routine as quickly as possible. Study, workout, friends, and fun activities. There is time for all, if you are organized. You cannot have a room that is a pig pen. You need to be organized right from the start and stay that way.

18.尽快进入一个正常的日常生活。学习，锻炼，交朋友，还有有趣的活动。如果你有组织的话，对所有人来说都有时间。你不能把房间弄成猪圈。你需要从一开始就组织好，并保持这种状态。

19. You will not be able to cram at the last second like you did in high school and do well. If you keep up regularly, it will be easy to get good grades given how smart you really are. You are not smart enough to coast in college and do well–few are.

19.你不能像在高中那样在最后一秒死记硬背，并且做得很好。如果你经常坚持下去，考虑到你的聪明才智，你很容易就能取得好成绩。你不够聪明，不可能在大学里一帆风顺，也不可能做得很好——很少有人可以做得很好。

20. See the professors immediately if you are having any issues. If you don’t take advantage of office hours, you are making a huge mistake. Do NOT wait until it is too late.

20.如果你有任何问题，马上去找教授。如果你不利用办公时间，你就犯了一个巨大的错误。不要等到为时已晚。

21. Come home as often as you want. We will always pay for it.

21. 你想多回家就多回家。我们总是会（为你）买单的。

22. Learn how to manage your money. We will give you parameters on what you have, but it will be up to you to live within those parameters.

22.学习如何管理你的钱。我们会给你一些参数，但是是否在这些参数范围内生活取决于你。

23. Plan your vacations with your friends ahead. You will get cheap flights and if you plan it, you will actually do something as opposed to having it all fall apart at the last minute. You are always welcome to come with us on every vacation. You need to give us enough notice that you want to come so we can plan accordingly. If you say you are coming with us, you can’t bag us at the last minute.

23.提前和你的朋友计划好你的假期。你会得到便宜的机票，如果你计划好了，你就会真正做一些事情，而不是在最后一分钟把它搞砸。每次度假都欢迎你和我们一起来。你需要给我们足够的通知，让我们可以做出相应的计划。如果你说你要和我们一起去，你就不能在最后一分钟把我们打包。

24. There is no excuse not to reply to text messages from your parents (or other relatives) promptly. We are going to miss you an awful lot and want to be included in what is going on.

24.没有理由不及时回复你父母(或其他亲戚)的短信。我们会非常非常想念你们，我们希望能够参与到正在发生的事情中来。

25. Call us often. When you are alone walking in between classes is usually a good time. There is never a bad time.

25.经常给我们打电话。当你一个人在课间散步的时候通常是个好时机。时机永远不会错。

26. Don’t spend all of your time with your roommate or any one person. Circulate and meet lots of people.

26.不要把所有的时间都花在你的室友或任何一个人身上。四处去走动走动，认识很多人。

27. Be as outgoing as you can stand.

27. 尽可能的外向。

28. I said it before, it is COOL to be smart.

28. 我以前说过，聪明很酷。

29. Be careful, aware and respectful of the locals when you are out. Almost all of them are fine people, but campus is a protected world and the real world is not.

29.当你外出时，要小心，注意和尊重当地人。他们几乎都是好人，但校园是一个受保护的世界，而现实世界不是。

30. Participate in class.

30. 参与课堂活动。

31. Stay organized.

31. 保持组织性。

32. Eat well and balanced.

32. 饮食均衡。

33. Never get yourself in a party situation where something is getting out of control. Stop the problem or leave if you can’t. Always be that person who calls for help when it is needed. You know better. Who needs it?

33.永远不要让自己陷入一个事情失去控制的派对状态。停止这个问题，如果你不能，就离开。永远做那个在需要的时候呼救的人。你很清楚。谁需要它？

34. Never drink and drive or get in the car with someone else who has. Students are wonderful targets for law enforcement and you will deserve what you get. You could also really hurt someone or yourself.

34.永远不要酒后驾车或者和别人一起上车。学生们是执法部门的绝佳目标，你们会得到应有的惩罚。你也可能真的伤害到别人或者你自己。

35. Remember, in college, there is an honor code One slip up and you are gone. They don’t give second chances.

35.记住，在大学里有一条荣誉准则，一旦犯错，你就会被开除。他们不会给第二次机会。

36. Volunteer helping someone.

36. 自愿帮助别人。

37. Don’t fall behind with credits. Don’t take too many or two few. If in doubt, coordinate with your advisor so there are no “surprises”.

37.不要落后于学分。不要选太多课，也不要选太少。如果有疑问，与你的顾问协调，以便没有“惊喜”。

38. Try to start figuring out what you want to major in day one. You don’t have to decide for quite a while, but just start thinking about it. Apply yourself in each class like it may be your major…it might be.

38.试着从第一天开始想想你想学什么专业。你不必在一段时间内做出决定，只要开始考虑就可以了。努力学习每一门课，就像它是你的专业一样。

39. Always think before you act.

39. 行动前要三思。

40. Study groups are really good….if done well.

40. 学习小组真的很好……如果做得好的话。

41. Don’t get labeled as a partier or a cool kid. Those are not compliments and it won’t help you.

41.别被贴上派对狂或酷小孩的标签。这不是赞美，也帮不了你。

42. Dress reasonably. It matters. Groom yourself. You know what that means without me spelling it out.

42. 穿着合理。这很重要。打扮自己。你知道这意味着什么，不用我说。

43. Get enough sleep.

43. 睡眠充足。

44. Read the papers (online is fine) every day and keep up with what is happening in the real world. Don’t live in a bubble.

44.每天阅读报纸(网上也可以)，了解现实世界中发生的事情。不要生活在泡沫里。

45. Attend the presentations of speakers who come to campus as often as you can. You will always learn something and it might be your future career speaking to you. Go up after they speak. Make contacts. Follow up.

45.尽可能多地参加到校园来的演讲者的演讲。你总会学到一些东西，这可能是你未来的职业生涯对你说话。他们说完你就上去。建立联系。跟进。

46. It’s OK to miss us.

46. 想念我们很正常。

47. Stay in contact with your siblings–stay attached.

47.与兄弟姐妹保持联系。

48. Stay in touch with Grammy and Pappy. They are the only grandparents you have and they worship and love you. We will all miss them one day and it will be too late. College is not an excuse to lose touch.

48.和奶奶还有爷爷保持联系。他们是你唯一的祖父母，他们崇拜你，爱你。有一天我们都会想念他们，那时就太晚了。大学不是失去联系的借口。

49. Don’t just wait for Grammy and Pappy to contact you. You initiate (email is easy and often—a phone call will mean more on occasion).

49.别等奶奶和爷爷联系你。你主动发起(电子邮件很容易，而且经常发送ーー有时候一个电话意味着更多)。

50. Never lie.

50. 永不撒谎。

51. Always be polite.

51. 永远要有礼貌。

52. Be proud. You are at a great school and you deserve to be there.

52. 要自豪。你在一所很好的学校，你应该在那里。

53. Understand that college is really tough for some people. Be empathetic and help those in need.

53. 理解大学对一些人来说真的很艰难。要有同情心，帮助那些需要帮助的人。

54. Wear clean clothes.

54. 穿干净的衣服。

55. Get your room organized and fully set up immediately.

55. 立刻整理好你的房间。

56. Don’t lose your books and if you do, get a new one immediately.

56. 不要把书弄丢了，如果弄丢了，马上买一本新的。

57. Get your work done so you can watch every Giant Football game guilt free.

57. 完成你的工作，这样你就可以毫无负罪感地观看每一场巨人橄榄球比赛。

58. Always do your best.

58. 永远做到最好。

59. First impressions count.

59.第一印象很重要。

60. You will only get out of college what you put into it.

60. 只有你付出了多少，你才能走出大学。

61. Doing OK is not OK unless that is truly your very best.

61. 除非你真的尽了最大努力，否则做得好就不叫没事。

62. You can always call your parents for advice at any time on anything.

62. 你可以随时打电话向父母咨询任何事情。

63. You can always call your parents and tell them what you are thinking of doing and not ask for any advice.

63.你可以随时打电话给你的父母，告诉他们你正在考虑做什么，而不需要寻求任何建议。

64. When you come home, you still have to respect us and abide by our rules of the house.

64.当你回家的时候，你仍然要尊重我们，遵守我们的家规。

65. Every grade you get will ultimately affect your chances of a top graduate school or job. Don’t forget this. It doesn’t mean you need to get all A’s. It just means you need to respect each professor and class.

65.你得到的每一个分数最终都会影响你进入顶尖研究生院或找到工作的机会。别忘了这个。这并不意味着你必须得到所有的 A。这只是意味着你需要尊重每一位教授和每一个班级。

66. Even when professors suck, it isn’t an excuse to do cruddy in the class.

66. 即使教授很差劲，也不能成为在课堂上表现糟糕的借口。

67. Take some small classes. There will be a lot of reading and work, but you will get a lot out of it.

67.上一些小课程。将会有很多的阅读和工作，但是你会从中得到很多。

68. Make sure you take at least one religion, psychology, sociology, and philosophy class. They will change you as a human being if you apply yourself.

68.确保你至少选修一门宗教、心理学、社会学和哲学课。如果你应用在自己身上，它们会改变你的人生。

69. Take at least a few economics classes. Can’t hurt.

69. 至少上几堂经济学课，没什么坏处。

70. Don’t drink too much. It is a slippery slope.

70. 不要喝太多酒，这是一个滑坡。

71. Don’t blow off orientation events because you were there already. You will meet new people. Don’t be “too cool for school”.

71.不要因为你已经去过那里而放弃迎新活动。你会遇到新的朋友。不要“在学校太酷”。

72. Choose your friends really carefully and be a great friend to them.

72.仔细选择你的朋友，成为他们的好朋友。

73. Don’t be intimidated by anyone.

73. 不要被任何人吓倒。

74. Don’t be arrogant or overconfident.

74. 不要自大或过于自信。

75. Integrity, honesty, and directness. Those qualities win every time.

75.正直、诚实和直率。这些品质每次都能赢。

76. Don’t blame bad grades on anyone but yourself.

76. 除了你自己，不要把成绩不好归咎于任何人。

77. Extra effort does make a difference and people notice.

77.额外的努力确实有所不同，人们会注意到。

78. Come home for Thanksgiving and other holidays. We want to be with you. It will be a nice break.

78.回家过感恩节和其他节日。我们想和你在一起。这将是一个很好的休息。

79. This will be a fantastic period in your life. Don’t take it for granted and enjoy every moment.

79.这将是你人生中一段美好的时光，不要想当然，享受每一刻。

80. When you are sick, go directly to the health services center and get better right away.

80.当你生病的时候，直接去健康服务中心，马上好起来。

81. Stay in touch with your old high school friends but don’t be too shocked when you realize you are growing apart. If they are really good friends, you will eventually reconnect–even if you drift away for a while.

81.和你高中时的老朋友保持联系，但是当你意识到你们正在渐行渐远时，不要太惊讶。如果他们真的是好朋友，你们最终会重新联系——即使你们分开了一段时间。

82. Ask questions.

82. 提问。

83. Don’t be shy.

83. 别害羞。

84. Be politely assertive.

84. 要有礼貌、果断。

85. Be yourself.

85. 做你自己。

86. Enjoy your social media but remember that every future employer and graduate school will also enjoy it.

86. 享受你的社交媒体，但要记住，每一个未来的雇主和研究生院也会享受它。

87. Never forget who you are or where you came from.

88.永远不要忘记你是谁，你来自哪里。

88. Be kind always. Should be easy for you.

88. 永远友善。对你来说应该很容易。

89. Stand up for the underdog always.

89. 永远为失败者挺身而出。

90. Never allow anyone to be bullied.

90. 绝不允许任何人被欺负。

91. Realize how smart, fast, charismatic, and sensitive you are. You are a natural leader. It is awesome, but there is a responsibility that comes with being the leader we all know you can be.

91.意识到你有多聪明，多快，多有魅力，多敏感。你是个天生的领导者。这很棒，但是作为一个领导者，我们都知道你可以成为一个领导者。

92. Realize the power of your words and always choose them wisely.

92.意识到你话语的力量，并永远明智地选择它们。

93. Go out of your way to make friends with people who are really different than you. You will be amazed at what you will learn about them and about yourself.

93.走出你的方式，和那些与你不同的人交朋友。你会惊奇地发现你将学到关于他们和你自己的东西。

94. Plan ahead always.

94. 凡事都要提前计划。

95. Live for the moment as well.

95. 活在当下。

96. Smile every day knowing that you are at a great school with an amazing campus and you are going to have a ton of fun.

96.每天微笑，因为你知道你在一个很棒的学校，有一个很棒的校园，你会有很多的乐趣。

97. Appreciate that you are there for academics first.

97. 感谢你首先是为了学术而来。

98. Stay connected with the rest of your family here…aunts, uncles, cousins, etc….at the end of the day, all we have is family. Mom is going to miss you more than anyone on the planet. Keep her included in your life…..but not too much!

98.和你在这里的其他家人保持联系……姑姑，叔叔，堂兄弟，等等……在一天结束的时候，我们只有家人。妈妈会比任何人都想念你。让她融入你的生活，但不要太多！

99. Realize that you are a mature person now and understand everything that comes with it.

99.意识到你现在是一个成熟的人了，并且理解随之而来的一切。

100. Know that I could not love you more. I will miss you dearly. I could not be prouder of you. I feel like we really spent a lot of good time together this past year and it is going to torture me not to have you at the Giant’s tailgates or playing Call Of Duty or shooting hoops. You are going to have an amazing experience and you deserve it. All I ask is that you take these scribbles out at least once each semester and remind yourself of what I am saying. You will make mistakes and nothing is ever perfect, but a good roadmap never hurt anyone who had an important destination to get to. You have an important destination, and while I’m no longer with you on the daily journey, my love, spirit and whatever wisdom I can offer will always be here for you. Congratulations and enjoy!

100.我知道我不能再更爱你一点了。我会非常想念你的。我为你感到无比骄傲。我觉得我们过去一年在一起度过了很多美好的时光，如果没有你在巨人的车尾门，或者玩使命召唤或者投篮，我会很痛苦的。

你将会有一个很棒的经历，这是你应得的。我只要求你们每学期至少把这些涂鸦拿出来一次，提醒自己我说的是什么。你会犯错误，没有什么是完美的，但是一个好的路线图绝不会伤害任何一个有重要目的地要去的人。你有一个重要的目的地，虽然我不在你的日常旅程中，我的爱，精神和任何智慧，我可以提供永远在这里为你。祝贺你，好好享受吧！

Love Always,

永远爱你,

Dad

爸爸

写在最后

可怜天下父母心，无论中国还是美国，父母对即将上大学孩子的心情有很多是相通的，也许有时候会感觉唠叨，但是背后都是满满的爱和牵挂。看完这些，你是否有触动呢？

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