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不同阶段扮演不同的父亲角色
当你刚刚开始成为父亲,你并不总能经历到初为人父的喜悦。你需要忙到深夜,这导致你严重睡眠不足,有时候还要面对我们极度情绪化的妻子...... 当然还有所有男人们都会面对的压力(工作,挣钱,账单等等)。
当孩子们长大一些后,有时候你可能会觉得父亲的角色是一个重担:因为你需要应付更多的账单,处理家庭中更多的问题,你的时间会变得异常稀少,甚至没有时间去做我们该做的事。
我有4个孩子,其中3个孩子都已经长大成人,第一个孩子已经大学毕业而且参加了工作,第二个孩子6月份也即将毕业, 第三个正在读大学..... 目前还没有离家的是我们最小的孩子(将近14岁)。我开始意识到,作为父亲,我们的角色会经历不同的阶段。 虽然每一个阶段都有一些特别的挑战,但是每个阶段也有它特别的美好。
兄弟们,作为爸爸,不管现在你处于哪个阶段,花时间去享受它吧。我可以郑重的向你保证:不管是哪个阶段,只要它一旦逝去,将不再回来;再多的钱财也买不回已逝的光阴。
所以这个周末——不管你在哪里或有多么重要的事,都请你暂时将这些搁置,与你的孩子共度一些有趣和难忘的时光吧。你的孩子们,也包括你将会永远记得这些幸福美好的时光。这些幸福美好的记忆(不像物质的财产)将会随着时间的推移变得越发珍贵。
英文原文:
The Seasons of Fatherhood
When you’rea young dad it’s not always easy to see the beauty of fatherhood.  Late nights, little sleep, a(sometimes) very emotional wife…and of course all the regular pressures we men face (work, money, bills, etc).
Likewise as the kids grow up, sometimes we can think of Fatherhood as a burden: more bills to pay, more problems to settle at home, and precious little time to take care of everything we should do.
But now 3 of our 4 kids are grown up. Our eldest graduated from college and is working. Our next will graduate this June. Our third is in college…leaving only our youngest (almost14 years old) at home. It makes me realize that there are different seasons to Fatherhood. And each one of them is beautiful – and challenging - in its own special way.
Brother: make sure to take the time to enjoy whatever Fatherhood season you are in. The only thing I can promise you is this: it will never come back. No amount of money can bring back time gone by. So this weekend – wherever you are and whatever other commitments you have – take time to do something fun and memorable with your kids. They won’t forget it – and neither will you. And those beautiful memories (unlike physical possessions) only grow more precious with time.

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